Day 302: Fog

This view makes it incredibly easy to capture beautiful moments at every time of day. I woke up this morning to see Boston enveloped in an #artsy fog.

Foggy sunrise over Charles River in Boston
A beautifully foggy sunrise over Charles River in Boston. #nofilter #unedited

And since I love to make metaphorical connections between my photos and life, in general…get ready.

I attended a COM networking event tonight, and as with the social media talk on Monday, it was mostly useless and a waste of time. No doubt the connections gained from networking can be the determining factor for hiring managers in deciding whether to hire someone over another. But I officially denounce networking events. (That and social media panels/talks.)

Sitting among a crowd of mostly jobless, desperate graduating seniors (myself included), I just knew the event would be unfruitful. Did I need to hear someone talk for an hour about how to do a proper handshake, how to sit up and stand straight, how to approach people mid-conversation, how to connect with people on LinkedIn (I wish I were kidding), and other, essentially fundamental social activities that a competent human being would and should already know how to do or at least have enough common sense to learn easily? What the heck did I sign up for?

Sure, you might think that maybe if I had a more open mind to the event and actually came slightly more prepared or caring about impressing employers, then I would have had a better time. Sure, my opinion does not mean that everyone else also hated strongly disliked the event for its lack of genuine connections.

And that’s largely why I, and I’m sure many others, dislike the nature of networking. I know, I know. It’s not just about getting something out of someone else. See what you can offer. Blah, blah. I’m sorry but as someone who has gotten a good number of internships and jobs without any superficially useless networking, I would much rather do my own research, reach out to the people I want to talk to, and impress them in ways that don’t involve lining up with a group of hungry students trying to make any sort of impression, in hopes of somehow getting an email address that is publicly listed and emailing them only to forget about them a few weeks later.

I am so tired of hearing about elevator pitches. I am so tired of people believing that they will get jobs from attending networking events. I am so tired of people relying on others to help them get jobs.

How about this? Build yourself and your skills and interests. Make them come to you.

Entitled? Maybe. Overly confident? Sure. But when you are just that damn good, you shouldn’t need to work as hard to get these opportunities. I only hope that I continue to develop my own skills and make a good enough impression that at least someone recognizes it. I’m not saying you shouldn’t hustle and make as many connections as possible. But for my sanity, stay away from networking events.

Believe in yourself. You don’t need that recruiter who talked to 30 other desperate students who are all in the same situation as you and will probably think nothing of you or your business card (sorry, I do love Moo). What you do need is to work on becoming that damn good that both you and others see only great things to come. Why can’t you be successful?

Of course, if that doesn’t work, maybe you’re just better off being “Rhetty to Party.”

Rhetty to Party cup